Marriage seems a little stale.
Thinking about divorce, separation, or just being tired or bored with living with someone who feels like a stranger?
You’ve spent years – maybe decades – building a life together. Throughout that time, you have navigated careers, raised children, and managed a household with precision. However, now that the dust is settling, you look across the dinner table and realize you aren’t sure who is sitting there anymore.
The “doing” years are ending. The “being” years are beginning.
If you feel like you are living parallel lives under the same roof, you aren’t alone, and you aren’t finished.
Midlife isn’t a crisis – it’s a transition.
The tools that worked for your relationship in your 30s often aren’t enough for the complexities of midlife. I specialize in helping couples navigate the unique pressures during this chapter of their relationship. The following is a summary of the phases we need to address:
- The Empty Nest: Redefining who you are when being a parent is no longer your primary identity.
- The Intimacy Gap: Move past “polite coexistence” to reclaim physical and emotional intimacy and desire.
- Career & Aging Transitions: Learn to support each other through shifting roles, retirement planning, or health changes.
- The “Is This It?” Phase: Address the quiet resentment or boredom that can settle in after years of routine.
Here’s a roadmap for the second half.
My approach is collaborative, active, practical, and forward-looking. Using the 3Rs approach (Reflect, Repair & Rebuild), we’ll:
We will create a roadmap of what needs to change to accomplish our defined goals.
We help you understand each other’s unmet attachment needs and, in the safety of our sessions, learn to de-escalate negative cycles, access underlying emotions, and be vulnerable with each other.
I help you create new and secure ways to connect that make you both feel secure, fulfilled, and desired in the relationship. You decide what the next phase in your lives will look like – on your own terms.
Don’t wait for a crisis to start the conversation.
Your relationship has survived the hardest years of building a life. Now, let’s make sure it’s a life you both actually enjoy living.
With 25 years of first-hand experience in this stage and specialized training in Imago, EFT, and CBT, I feel well-equipped to help you and your partner move from “surviving” to truly thriving in your second act.
Your relationship will benefit!
